The Dreaded “V” Word
True belonging is showing up and being seen for who we are, and knowing there is a place for us. We all yearn for such an experience and place. But it is not easy to be vulnerable enough to let others see us for who we really are.
In Meditation for Beginners, Jack Kornfield says, “There is a place in everyone that yearns to love, that longs to be safe, that wants to treat others and ourselves with respect. Sometimes that place is buried underneath layers of fear, old wounds, cynicism, and pain that we have used to protect ourselves from injury.”
To be vulnerable means risking being hurt one more time, yet without vulnerability our relationships will always be superficial. As we contemplate the risk of vulnerability, I leave you with two quotes from Brene Brown in Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
“Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you.”
“When we stop caring about what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable.”
Remember, the grace of Christ meets us where we are, not where others think we should be!