December 10, 2010 | 11:25 am

Friday – No Parity

We’ve been talking a lot about expectations, and this has centered on the expectations we carry into our relationship with God. Advent is a time to envision again how God’s presence brings healing and wholeness in us, between us, and through all creation. It is not yet realized but is already evidencing itself, which creates in us the expectation that more is to come. However, I’ve been wondering if there is parity in expectations between God and us. You know, the idea that we have expectations of God just as God has expectations of us. I think I’m on solid theological ground when I say that I don’t think there is any parity. From what I glean of Jesus’ teachings, God’s love is not based on an expectation of what we should be or do. It is a love for who we are—even when we’re moving through those dark places. This is the same love we are to embody with one another.

Karen CaseyKaren Casey gives shape to this when she says that “Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.”
I know this represents an idealization of what love can be, but there is something within us that wants to be loved regardless of…, not loved because of...